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What Did You Expect?

When you reflect on your situation—home, relationships, work—the easiest things to report are the troublesome things, or the extraordinarily good things.   Both strike your awareness with more immediacy than the majority of things that just work.   The adequacy of their “working” manifests by going unnoticed.   So, for example, when asked, “How are things going?” it would be very odd to say, “Water comes out of my faucets; and the toilets flush.”   More common would be the catastrophe, “the water-main to my house broke!”   Or again, no one would reply by saying, “my house is the same color it was last month,” but anyone would say (if it happened), “we just had our house repainted!” What’s going on here?   All the many things operating as expected, these go without comment.   We build our lives around what we can count on, on the things that are stable.   It would be exhausting to re-think everything, every time action was needed.   In turn, this sets us up to be always aware of what’